“There’s no such thing as a picky eater.”
I’ve seen that statement countless times on health blogs, in parenting magazines, and on mommy blogs.
And if you’d asked me eight years ago — you know, before I had actual kids — I would have agreed.
I’m a pretty adventurous eater, and I had no doubt my kids would follow suit.
It turns out real kids are a bit different from hypothetical kids.
My younger one will eat pretty much anything we put in front of him: cracked pepper hummus, spicy salsa, split pea soup, sushi, you name it.
The older one, however, would subsist on a diet of Starbursts and plain pasta if we let him.
I now have hands-on training in the delicate art of “encouraging” a picky eater. And I’ve found a few things that actually work — none of which require hiding spinach in a brownie recipe.
In fact, this week, the picky one has eaten chana masala, andouille sausage, and grass-fed beef tacos… without complaining!
Here are a few expert-approved tips that can help a picky eater expand his or her culinary horizons.
How to Get Your Picky Eater to Eat Healthier
1. Don’t panic
While it’s normal to worry about your kid’s nutrition (that’s kind of your job!) a study in Singapore found that picky eating habits rarely affect growth.
Researchers also noted that getting angry when your kid refuses a food can only make things worse.
“What a kid is or isn’t eating should not be the focus of dinner conversation,” says Jill Whitney, L.M.F.T., and picky-eating expert. “Talk about everyone’s day, with the food as backdrop… that makes for much calmer and more pleasant mealtimes, which is as important as nutrition.”
2. Change your language
It’s OK to gripe about your picky eater with other parents, but steer clear of labels if your kid is within earshot.
“If you talk about how your child is a picky eater, he may come to see that as a core part of who he is,” Whitney says. “It’s much better to use language that implies his picky eating is a stage — ‘Sam doesn’t like cauliflower yet,’ or ‘Alexis is still learning to like salmon.'”
After all, palates can change; you might have hated Brussels sprouts as a kid, but now you order them every time you see them on a menu.
3. Consider the example you’re setting
Maybe your meat can’t touch your veggies. Maybe you hate the smell of cilantro.
Maybe you — and by you, I mean me — can’t look at yellow mustard without gagging. Everyone has food hangups, and kids are no exception.
“It’s amazing to think about all of our picky eating habits and then expect children to automatically branch out,” says Amy Isabella Chalker, a registered dietitian who specializes in children’s healthy eating habits.
Rather than forcing your child to eat everything on his plate, let him decide what he’s ready to try — even if it’s just a dinner roll and a scoop of corn.
Fun fact: Carl Daikeler, Beachbody’s CEO and co-founder, does not like vegetables. Solution? His wife Isabelle and nutritionist Darin Olien created Shakeology so Carl would eat his greens.
4. Try, try, try… and try again
Don’t write off a food just because your kid tried it and hated it (or refused it altogether).
Research has shown kids sometimes need to be offered a food several times before they accept it.
“Some kids are naturally more open to new experiences,” Whitney says. “[But] the slow-to-warm-up kids may need to be exposed to new foods a number of times before they’ll be open to them, so keep offering them.”
5. Reward responsibly
There’s a fine line between rewards and straight-up bribery, but as a parent, you’re already a tightrope-walking master.
Instead of bribing your kids with dessert — which can reinforce the idea that sweets are better than veggies — Whitney suggests rewarding with verbal praise such as, “I know, isn’t that delicious?!” or “I’m so glad you tried it!” when they sample something new.
6. Include something familiar at each meal
I’ve used foods my picky eater already enjoys as a gateway to new grub: “You know how much you like baked beans? I bet you’d love lentils!”
Pairing a new food with an old favorite can encourage food acceptance, so when you plan dinner each night, Chalker says, “Try to include at least one familiar food so your child isn’t overwhelmed.”
7. Get them involved in grocery shopping and meal prep
It’s important for kids to “feel included and engaged in the entire feeding process, from beginning to end,” Chalker says.
But she cautions against lecturing them about calories and vitamins.
Instead, focus on making it fun: Challenge them to find a fruit they’ve never tried in the produce aisle, or ask them to help crack the eggs when you’re making quiche.
“It’s beneficial for children to observe these healthy habits, understand the food cycle, and connect to their food in an educational way,” Chalker adds.
8. Create FOMO
“Rather than going head-to-head with your kid, talk about what he’s missing out on: ‘You don’t want this delicious shrimp? More for me!'” Whitney says.
Or chat with the rest of the family about how yummy it is.
You know how kids will ignore a toy until they see someone else playing with it, and suddenly they need to have it right this second? Same principle.
9. Use peer pressure
Obviously, peer pressure is the worst — but it’s also a totally useful parenting tactic, and sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
“Tap into their desire to be older,” Whitney says. “Say, ‘Well, I guess you’re not old enough to enjoy butternut soup’ or ‘Yeah, eating only a few things is something little kids do — you’ll outgrow it.'”
10. Pay attention to presentation
Sure, it’s annoying when your kid eats three applesauce pouches a day but refuses to touch an actual bowl of applesauce.
But presentation plays a big role in kids’ perception of food.
A study at Stanford University found that when kids were presented with two versions of the exact same food — one in a McDonald’s wrapper, and one in a plain wrapper — they gave the Mickey D’s burger significantly higher ratings.
Get thee to a Pinterest board and get fun presentation ideas like serving up cucumber boats or reindeer sandwiches to make healthy eating more fun.
11. Think outside the mac ‘n cheese box
When your kid rejects a piece of bread because the crust is “too crusty,” you might assume anything more adventurous would be out of the question.
“Don’t avoid offering foods simply because you don’t think your child would like it — they may surprise you!” Chalker says. “There’s no harm in offering a wide range of foods, from the mundane to the exotic, as long as familiar foods are presented alongside novel ones for some degree of comfort.”
The same kid who won’t touch certain shapes of pasta might devour a plate of pad thai with spaghetti squash.
You never know until you try — and worse case, at least you’ll enjoy the leftovers.
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